how to set intentions – wellness

Your twenties are widely known as the decade where your life possibilities are seemingly endless. Turning twenty certainly feels like a fresh new chapter and the beginning of your ‘dreams coming true’. Yet you may find yourself two years into your twenties, like myself, realising none of those things you’re dreaming of have happened yet. Time feels like it’s slipping from your grasp and those dreams appear impossible. I’ve realised over the past year that those dreams are not impossible, they just require hard work. You need to be able to focus yourself in order to allow them to flourish. Setting intentions provide you with direction. They give you a purpose that will guide you through each day allowing you to work effectively towards making your dreams a reality.

how do i begin setting intentions?

Firstly, it’s best to outline your overall intentions. These are the big ones. Your deepest desires for your life right now. They aren’t going to be achievable overnight but, are the driving force behind every thing you do. On your way to reaching them you’ll achieve lots of little things that eventually will pan into your dream becoming a reality. You need to align your mind, body and spirit and discover what it is that you truly want. Try to only pick 3 maximum, you want to make sure you have clear focuses.

If I am struggling I tend to organise my intentions into categories. For example: spiritual, personal and perhaps career.

Once you have your overall intentions – your driving forces – you can begin to think of monthly and daily intentions. These intentions may be on a much smaller scale- see them as stepping stones towards your big intentions.

When writing down your intentions try wording it as ‘I will…’ rather than ‘I wish’ or ‘I want’. You want to make your intentions vivid within your mind in order to truly see them manifest into your everyday. We don’t want to be still seeing them as dreams, we need to start looking at them as events are inevitable.

As a guiding example take a look at this extract from my own journal:

“I will build a business that will allow me to flourish creatively and will bring me the creative and financial independence I desire. This month I will bring space into my schedule to allow myself time to focus on personal projects and develop my passions. This week I will listen to and trust my creative energies, taking the time to develop my new brand”

how do i remain accountable?

In order to successfully meet your intentions you need to hold yourself accountable. It’s a matter of reminding yourself daily of your intentions and ensuring each action in your day is only pushing you forward rather than hindering your intentions. Motivation is not what is needed here, it is discipline. You need to come to the realisation that it is you who has the power to achieve what you are desiring, and only you can truly ensure you’re doing everything possible to make them possible.

My biggest advice is to set a routine. Every Sunday evening I will make the effort to create a calming atmosphere by running a bath, cleansing my skin, lighting a candle, and taking the time to write in my journal. Below you can find the journal prompts I use to re-focus myself.

  • what are my three main intentions?
  • how did i work towards my intentions this past week?
  • what do i need to let go of this week to remain focused?
  • what are my intentions for this week?
  • write down three things you want to attract this week.

Try beginning each morning by taking a few rounds of deep cleansing breaths and repeating to yourself your intentions for the day ahead. It’s all about focusing your energies and ensuring your always staying on track.

I encourage you to go grab a hot drink. Find a quiet, calming and comfortable space and settle down with a pen & journal. Take your time and map out your intentions. Do not rush. Really focus your energies and accept what it is your truly want. Use the journal prompts laid out in this post and begin setting your intentions. We cannot wait to hear about how this practice benefits you, be sure to visit us over on IG to tell us all about it.

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the beginning.

When I turned 20 in 2019 I felt as if I could have collapsed under the intense pressure I felt. I awoke to greeting cards filled with sentiments about how ‘these are the best years of your life’ and how ‘the world is your oyster’. It was hard not to feel like my life suddenly had endless opportunities that would bring me success and happiness. Yet as my logical mind began to timeline the next decade of my life I became crippled with anxiety. How could I travel the world, obtain a good degree, begin a successful career, say yes to every plan with friends, find the love of my life to marry, get my first home, adopt a dog, eat healthy, exercise twice a day, learn how to cook, and begin a family all within the short space of ten years. I blinked and two years of my twenties had gone by and I spent 90% of that time stuck inside whilst a global pandemic raged on. Every decision I made seemed to carry so much weight as I was hopelessly trying to navigate myself onto a path that would allow me to achieve all of the above. As I get deeper into my twenties my instagram feed becomes filled with engagements, baby announcements, first home selfies. It’s hard to not compare yourself to everybody else out there, especially when we’re living our twenties alongside Molly Mae who has seemingly conquered the world at 21. I constantly feel inept. I constantly feel lost. I suppose maybe that’s the point of your twenties, you have to be lost for a while to truly find who you are but christ- it’s hard work.

During my twenties I’ve been really lonely. It seems to become harder to talk to friends as everyone is focusing on their own lives. It seems harder to share aspirations and dreams with others because they’re much more real now. My dreams aren’t distant fantasies anymore- they are goals I want to see myself achieve in the coming years. I don’t want anybody to turn me off from them.
I longed for a community that would make me feel more supported. That would make me feel at ease during those anxious moments. A community who I could share every up and down with. A community who I could navigate my twenties with.

So here we are.
It’s been two years of trial and error to bring Navigating Twenties to what I want it to be. I think we’re finally ready now.

I really hope you find a friend in this website and in the voices that will feature on it.
Please stick around, we’d be so happy to have you.